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| NewsSunday, July 15, 2007 10:35 PM CDT |
Their lives in limbo, war wives soldier on
NORMAL -- It’s not easy on the war wives left behind. | Photo gallery While Kathy Murdoch’s husband is in Iraq, the Normal woman fights feelings of isolation and loneliness. Kathi Drozs, of Clinton, copes with raising two children alone. Loneliness affects her, too, as it does Jill Dorbeck of Bloomington. Each woman has a husband in the Illinois Army National Guard 33rd Military Police Battalion, which shipped out of Bloomington a year ago last month amid much fanfare, including hundreds of people lining the streets as the battalion left town via Veterans Parkway. About 70 soldiers with the 33rd left the Twin Cities, including about 30 from McLean County. The unit arrived in Iraq in October. Dorbeck’s husband, Sgt. Richard Dorbeck, a motor pool sergeant who was recently home on leave, said the wives “have it as bad if not worse than we (soldiers) do,” noting that spouses must cope not only with running their households, but with raising children alone. While various local support groups like State Farm Insurance Cos.’ Military Affinity Group (MAG), Operation Porchlight and the Family Readiness Group help with things like home repairs, there is nothing that can replace the reliance spouses have on each other. “We cling to each other,” said Drozs, adding she and Kathy Murdoch talk at least once and sometimes three or four times a week. Their husbands, both named Chris, are scheduled to come home by early October. Even with increased talk of troop reductions in Iraq, there remains no end in sight for the four-year-old war. The wives know nothing is certain — and that the military has extended deployments before. “We’re holding our breath,” Murdoch said. While they wait, they continue to lean on one another, talking on the telephone, doing things together outside the home and having dinner together. The most trying times are at night. That’s when Kathy and Chris Murdoch would discuss their days over a meal. “With me, it hits after I put the kids to bed,” said Drozs, referring to Zachary, 5, and Morgan, 3. Drozs, who’s been married about seven years, said Morgan has a hard time understanding why her daddy isn’t home. For Dorbeck, “I’ve missed having someone around to smile at you and say good night.” She said some of that missed time was made up recently during her husband’s leave. “We took an overnight trip to Wisconsin and went to Gene’s to get ice cream,” she said. Young marriages put on hold Murdoch, married about a year before her husband’s deployment, said family life remains on hold more than a year after he left home. Her work as a medical technologist at a local hospital keeps her busy. So do household projects she’d normally share with her husband, who works in supply and logistics in Iraq. Drozs, who has worked as a probation officer, is now a stay-at-home mom. “Chris feels strongly that this is where I should be,” she said. Both communicate with their husbands by e-mail and webcam and are proud of their husbands’ mission and appreciative of community support — as are their husbands. Drozs said soldiers from the battalion still think back to their big Twin City sendoff. While such community support is important, it’s also important that the women rely on each other, said Scott Vogel, a spokesman for the American Red Cross of the Heartland, which has been part of a family support group. “They get a sense of not being alone,” he said. “We’re not only proud of the soldiers but their families.” Though under stress, families do their best to keep the soldiers informed of what’s going on at home. Besides using the Internet, Murdoch and Drozs communicate with their husbands by sending packages with fruit cups and beef jerky, among other items. And their husbands return the favor, sending home flowers when they can. The greatest gift Flowers are fine, but Jill Dorbeck got something at the end of June far better — her husband, home on leave for about two weeks. He returned to Iraq earlier this month. But, while he was home, he was able to celebrate his son Carter’s first birthday. “We had family over and had cake and it was very low key,” said Jill Dorbeck, who hopes her husband of 2 ½ years will be home on schedule in October. And even with growing opposition in the U.S. to the Iraq war, Richard Dorbeck noted how public support for soldiers hasn’t waned. “We’re there to do a job. History will look at the rest of it,” he said. Calling in supportThere are several local support groups for soldiers serving overseas and their families: Operation Porchlight Created through a coalition of community groups, this organization can be contacted through the American Red Cross of the Heartland at (309) 662-0500 or the United Way of McLean County at (309) 828-7383. Military Affinity Group (MAG) Based at State Farm Insurance Cos., the contacts there are Sharon McCauley at State Farm at (309) 763-5527 or Curt McGinnis at State Farm at (309) 735-3864. Family Readiness Group The organization also serves as a resource referral to families while soldiers are away. The group meets monthly while soldiers are deployed. The contact person is LaTonya Harris at (309) 829-6594. Central Illinois Proud Families of Marines Formed earlier this year, the group can be reached through Penny Feehan at (309) 828-0190. The group meets once a month and has a Web site, www.cipfm.us, and e-mail at waiting4return@yahoo.com. SOURCES: Scott Vogel of the American Red Cross of the Heartland; LaTonya Harris; Sharon McCauley and Penny Feehan. Compiled by Bob Holliday Sgt. Chris Murdoch: -- Deployed in June 2006 to southern Iraq; works in logistics and supply. -- Joined the U.S. Navy shortly after high school and has served 12 years of active duty. -- Earned a bachelor’s degree in management information systems from the University of Central Oklahoma in 1998 and began working with State Farm Insurance Cos., where he’s a technical analyst in the systems department. -- Earned a master’s degree in business administration in 2001 from Illinois State University. -- Re-enlisted with the Guard after Sept. 11, 2001. Warrant Officer Christopher Drozs: -- Deployed with the Illinois Army National Guard 33rd Military Police Battalion to Iraq and is in charge of the motor pool and transportation. -- Has served in the Illinois Army National Guard for 16 years. -- Earned a B.S. from the University of Illinois in 1996. -- Has worked full-time since 1998 for the National Guard as a motor shop supervisor in Decatur. SOURCE: State Farm’s Military Affinity Group (MAG) Costs of war 15: Deployed Illinois National Guardsmen and women killed since 9/11. (14 Army, 1 Air Force). 3,996: U.S. troops who died in support of wars in Iraq (3,589) and Afghanistan (407). 1,150: Illinois Army (1,000) and Air National Guard (150) members currently deployed. 12,500: Enlisted members of the Illinois Army (9,500) and Air National Guard (3,000). 12 months: The Pentagon’s goal for maximum tours of duty for Guard members, but conditions have kept many tours at about 18 months. 92,000: Number of troops Defense Secretary Robert Gates wants to add to the active Army (65,000) and Marine Corps (27,000) in the next five years. 94,083: Number of Army National Guard and Army Reserve mobilized. 275,000: Guard members nationwide mobilized for the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan since the Sept. 11, 2001, terrorist attacks. 347,000: Enlisted Army National Guard soldiers. $12 billion: Monthly costs to U.S. taxpayers for Iraq and Afghanistan wars. SOURCES: Associated Press; American Forces Press Service; Illinois National Guard’s public affairs staff; Washington Post Compiled by Ryan Denham Central Illinois at warGeneral events Sept. 11, 2001: The U.S. goes on high alert after terror attacks; Illinois Army National Guard aids security efforts at airports as part of Operation Noble Eagle. Oct. 7, 2001: War in Afghanistan begins. Jan. 8, 2003: The Chicago-based 244th Army Liaison Team is first Illinois Guard unit deployed after 9/11, supporting the war in Afghanistan. March 20, 2003: U.S. invasion of Iraq begins; that same day, Marine Capt. Ryan A. Beaupre of St. Anne dies in Kuwait. March 29, 2003: First member of Illinois Guard killed since 9/11; Staff Sgt. Jacob L. Frazier of the Illinois Air National Guard killed in Afghanistan. May 23, 2004: Army Spc. Jeremy L. Ridlen of Maroa dies in Iraq. Oct. 6, 2004: Army Guard Spc. Jessica L. Cawvey of Mahomet killed in Iraq. Jan. 10, 2005: Army Cpl. Daniel Castillo of Streator, an Iraq war veteran, dies in exercise at Fort Campbell, Ky. Jan. 27, 2005: Marine Cpl. Jonathan S. Beatty of Streator dies in Iraq. Feb. 24, 2005: Army Staff Sgt. Daniel G. Gresham of Lincoln dies in Iraq. Aug. 5, 2005: Marine Gunnery Sgt. Terry W. Ball of East Peoria fatally wounded in Iraq. Oct. 28, 2005: Army Guard 1st Lt. Debra A. Banaszak, formerly of Clinton and Sullivan, dies in Kuwait. May 13, 2006: Army Spc. Ronald W. Gebur of Delavan dies in Iraq. Early October 2006: Army specialists Kristofer Walker and George Obourn Jr., both from Creve Coeur and graduates of East Peoria Community High School, die in Iraq. March 15, 2007: Marine Lance Cpl. Raymond J. Holzhauer of Dwight dies in Iraq. May 26, 2007: Army Spc. Francis Trussel of Lincoln dies in Iraq. Delavan-based Headquarters and Headquarters Detachment, 1144th Transportation Company April 22, 2007: About 60 soldiers from the Delavan-based Headquarters and Headquarters Detachment, 1144th Transportation Company deploying to Kuwait for the Iraq war for up to one year. This is the unit’s first mobilization for the war on terror. Deployment is only for 12 months instead of the usual 18. Summer 2007: Unit is stationed at forward operating bases in Iraq and Kuwait. Streator-based 1744th Transportation Company June 2006: Streator-based 1744th Transportation Company mobilized for Iraq war. Early October 2006: 1744th Transportation Company arrives in Iraq after time in Kuwait and at Camp Atterbury, Ind. The 190 soldiers of the 1744th were sent to Camp Anaconda near Balad, north of Baghdad. September 2007 – Streator unit expected to return; unit is providing roadside security on the route between Kuwait and northern Iraq. Bloomington-based 33rd Military Police Battalion Early May 2006: Bloomington-based Headquarters 33rd Military Police Battalion mobilized for the Iraq war as security forces. About 75 soldiers are called up for up to one year, and this is the unit’s first deployment since 9/11. June 25, 2006: Deployment ceremony for the Bloomington-based 33rd MP Battalion. October 2006: Unit arrives in Iraq October 2007: The unit is scheduled to return from overseas. SOURCES: Illinois National Guard’s public affairs office; Pantagraph archives; Associated Press; Washington Post Compiled by Ryan Denham |
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